You may not like this sermon, but I will have to answer to God if I don’t tell you His truth.

Feminism and welfare benefits have successfully convinced many women that fathers are not important except for conception. Many say marriage is unnecessary and was created to enslave women. Besides, who wants to be monogamous and submit to a man all their life? Many women prefer to let the state take care of their children and be free to do as they please.

Furthermore, many men like feminism because it frees them of the responsibility of the children they produce while they pursue their desires and multiple bed partners. Sadly, as a result of this philosophy, the majority of children today are given birth by unwed mothers and the children are the ones who suffer.

In the King James Bible, children born outside of marriage are referred to as “bastards”. That term was not meant to be derogative, but was used to make a distinction as to which children had legal rights as an heir and which children did not have any rights.

But that was for those people back then, right? Now, we are supposed to ignore what God says and not use that “politically incorrect” term. We are supposed to rejoice when an unwed mother announces she’s pregnant and the child will be brought up without a father, which is a major disadvantage for the child. Oh, there may be a man in the house, maybe several men while the child grows up, but children don’t need a man in the house! They need a father!

A father doesn’t have to be genetically related, although that would be best. A father is someone who lives with the child full time, cares for them, and loves them their whole life.

There are many bad consequences from raising children in a fatherless home. An increase in poverty and delinquency are just a couple. More than 70% of all juveniles in state reform institutions come from fatherless homes. Most of the other 30% come from homes where the father fails through abuse or neglect of the children. Without a good father, children are not well disciplined, boys don’t know how to be men, and girls don’t know what true love is.

We see an example of a good father in: Mark 5:22-24,35-43 (also found in Luke 8:40-42,49-56) Then came one of the rulers of the synagogue, Jairus by name, and seeing him, he fell at his feet and implored him earnestly, saying, “My little daughter is at the point of death. Come and lay your hands on her, so that she may be made well and live.” And he went with him. 35While he was still speaking, there came from the ruler’s house some who said, “Your daughter is dead. Why trouble the Teacher any further?” But overhearing what they said, Jesus said to the ruler of the synagogue, “Do not fear, only believe.” And he allowed no one to follow him except Peter and James and John the brother of James. They came to the house of the ruler of the synagogue, and Jesus saw a commotion, people weeping and wailing loudly. And when he had entered, he said to them, “Why are you making a commotion and weeping? The child is not dead but sleeping.” And they laughed at him. But he put them all outside and took the child’s father and mother and those who were with him and went in where the child was. Taking her by the hand he said to her, “Talitha cumi,” which means, “Little girl, I say to you, arise.” And immediately the girl got up and began walking (for she was twelve years of age), and they were immediately overcome with amazement. And he strictly charged them that no one should know this, and told them to give her something to eat.

Jairus was a ruler of the synagogue—an assembly that included the whole community of Capernaum. His position made him one of the most prominent men of the congregation. In addition to administering the synagogue, the rulers acted as councilmen for the city.

So here we see a man with a high social position, a man known among the people, a man of prestige and power, but a man who had a desperate need. We can never become so powerful, so popular, or so prominent that problems and plights cannot reach us. This man’s little girl, the apple of his eye, was dying.

So, how does that make him an example of a good father?

First, he was not ashamed to seek out Jesus. Notice he sought out Jesus. He did not send his wife, or someone else. He took the initiative and the leadership in seeking Jesus.

Brothers, when we take on the role of a father, we also are to take on the responsibilities of spiritual leadership in the family.

Ephesians 6:4 Fathers, do not exasperate your children; instead, but bring them up in the training and instruction of the Lord.

It is the father’s responsibility to teach children about God. It is not the mother’s; it is not even the church’s. Even if the father refuses to do it, or assigns it to the mother, the responsibility remains his. He will have to give an account to God for the spiritual health of his family. Fathers, it falls upon you to give your children the kind of upbringing that prepares them for living lives that are pleasing to God. You cannot get out of it.

If you see no need to go to church, to pray, or to read the Bible, neither will your children. Find a good Biblical church and you take them there; don’t send them.

Fathers, God has placed the children in your care and God will hold you responsible for how they turn out. Therefore, teach your children to fear the Lord, to turn away from evil, and to love righteousness. Instill in them God’s attitude toward sin. Live before God, the way you would have your children live before God.

Because, whatever you do, you set the example. And it will either be a good example or a bad example. Your sons especially will learn how to act as a man from you. Your daughters will get their value from your attention and learn what kind of man to seek as a mate from you.

I say again, it is the family unit—primarily the father—and not the church, which is responsible for the Biblical and spiritual training of the children. Church and Sunday school only assist you in the training of your children.

Therefore, you must protect your children from ungodly influences. Satan is out to destroy them. You must protect them by determining what they see (Don’t assume because it is a cartoon or Disney that it is safe). You must determine what they listen to and who their friends are. You can be do it in a loving way and still be firm. That is your responsibility.

You must supply healthy recreation and family time together. You are responsible for their education, so make sure they are in a godly school or establish your own home school.

Encourage your children to remain separate from this world. Instill in them godly standards because you can be sure the world will teach them its standards. For example, the world approves of fornication, but sex before marriage is still a sin, and living together outside the bounds of marriage is still a sin. Homosexuality is still a sin. Rebellion, lying, and gossiping are still sins. And the consequences of sin are still serious.

Instruct your children in the necessity of being filled with the Holy Spirit by not getting drunk and being filled with the Holy Spirit yourself. Instruct them about the importance of prayer and the Word of God by leading family devotions. Teach by your life, your actions, not just words, for words mean very little if they’re not applied to yourself.

Teach your children they are strangers and pilgrims upon this earth and that God has a purpose for their life. Teach them God loves them too much to reward them for disobedience. You do that by not rewarding them for disobedience when they disobey you. Teach them that His love is unconditional, but His promises are not. Teach them that they cannot expect God to bless them with: finances without tithing, wisdom without the Word, freedom without forgiveness, success without responsibility, and abundance without obedience. Teach God’s Word and practice it yourself.

Notice again that Jairus, as a father, sought out Jesus himself.

Secondly, regardless his social position, regardless of the onlookers of the townspeople, Jairus humbly knelt before Jesus, pleading with Him to come and heal his child.

Fathers, it is alright to let your family see that you have limitations. Weep with them, but show them, that you have faith in the one you say you serve, faith in the one you go to church to worship. Let them hear you calling out on the Name of Jesus in your home, not just in church.

Let your children know that you are not ashamed of the Gospel, nor the Christ of the Gospel. Lead them to Jesus, walk out your faith with them. Show them your commitment to God, to your marriage, and to your family. Experience God together. Don’t miss out making those kind of memories.

The third example Jairus gives us is that he was not ashamed to bring Christ into his home. We must not forget, Jesus was to many of Jairus’ colleagues a friend of sinners, a drunkard, and they thought the work He did was by the power of the devil. To them, it would be a disgrace to have Jesus come to their home.

That is our problem today. We have let others’ opinions make us ashamed of Jesus. Our country needs more homes where Christ resides. Homes where He is more than a picture on the wall, a place where His presence is acknowledged, His name is honored, His Word is read and obeyed.

Psalm 127:1-5 Unless the LORD builds the house, they labor in vain who build it; unless the LORD guards the city, the watchman stays awake in vain. It is vain for you to rise up early, to sit up late, to eat the bread of sorrows; for so He gives His beloved sleep. Behold, children are a heritage from the LORD. The fruit of the womb is a reward. Like arrows in the hand of a warrior, so are the children of one's youth. Happy is the man who has his quiver full of them. They shall not be ashamed, but shall speak with their enemies in the gate.

If you are not ashamed to have Christ to reside in your home, you and your children will be able to withstand any ridicule or persecution that occurs in the public arena. You can abide in His rest and not worry, for Jesus will protect your home and your children.

We need that protection, for Satan wants to destroy our marriages and our children. He is open about it. He doesn’t try to hide what he is doing. Every day we see him using drugs, sex, and rebellion to kill, steal, and destroy homes and kids.

Jesus said in John 10:10 The thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy. I came that they may have life and have it to the full.

So, how does Satan get into our home? We let him in! We welcome him through the internet, music, television, social media, video games, etc. Parents, you must put a stop to it! Children do not need an iPhone! They do not need an Xbox—they need a sandbox where they can imagine and create! You have the responsibility, not your children, to determine what enters their minds!

While your children are outside the home, Satan will attack them through friends and ungodly teachers. He’s out to rob your children. He wants to steal their innocence, their virginity, their dignity, their minds, bodies, and souls.

Fathers, stay involved in your children’s lives so you are aware of their battles from satanic influences and fight with them. Fight Satan with everything you’ve got. Fight him with prayer. Do not sit idly by as he brings havoc in your home. Don’t let psychologists or the government tell you how to raise your children. Obey God’s Word even though that is not popular with anyone else. Make Christ your leader and protector. That will go a long way toward keeping Satan out of your home.

For example, when Christ entered Jairus’ home, Jesus chose who was to be in the house, and He ran out whomever did not belong. He took the authority in Jairus’ home. Are you letting Jesus have the authority in your home? Is He able to bring in that which He desires and get rid of that which does not belong? Ask Jesus if there is anything that will hinder His ministry in your home, and when He shows you what it is, run it out of your house!

The fourth example of Jairus’ good fatherhood is he was not ashamed to express his love toward his daughter. His love for her caused him to seek out Jesus. It compelled him to fall at Jesus feet and beg Him to come. His love for his daughter caused him to forget his place in society, and what others might think or say.

Listen, there was not a day that went by afterwards, that this girl didn’t know—I’m alive today because of my daddy’s love for me made him seek Jesus. She was a living testimony of the power of God and the love of her father.

Perhaps she grew to have children. If so, they would hear the story of how grandpa put his reputation on the line and sought out Jesus. She could tell them how Jesus brought her back to life because her daddy’s love for her caused him to bring Jesus into their home.

Fathers, love is not giving a child all they ask for. Love is not a closet full of toys, and drawers full of clothes. It is not a large allowance.

1 Corinthians 13:4-7 Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.

Therefore, if you love your children, you will gently sit them down, look them in the eye and tenderly say, “We are Christian’s, we serve Jesus, and because of that, there are some things we will do and some things we will not do. We will live differently from the rest of the world. You may not understand, but I do it because I love Jesus and I love you and I want you to live.

That is being a good father.

If you realize you have not been a good father, not all is lost. Repent and ask God to forgive you. Then ask your children to forgive you and let them know you are trusting God to make you a better father. Then ask God every day to fill you with His Spirit so you will have His grace to quit living for yourself and become a good father and a faithful Christian.

Unfortunately, some of us never had a father or a good father in our lives. However, I have some wonderful news for you and everyone else here. You have a Heavenly Father who loves you and wants you to live.

That is why He gave His Son, Jesus, to atone for your sin and bring you into fellowship with Him. He invites you to come to Him by believing in Jesus, repenting of your sin, and giving your life to Him by dying to yourself in baptism. Then you will be born again of the Holy Spirit, making you a child of God. He will lead you in obedience to God’s Word so you will have life and have it abundantly. Won’t you come to your Father today through faith in Jesus Christ?