A Mother's Influence

A Mother’s Influence

This is Mother’s Day, a day we honor mothers and remember the influence of our mothers on our lives. I remember several things my mother taught me.

My mother taught me LOGIC. She asked me to consider, "If everyone else jumped off a cliff, would you do it too?"

She also taught me MEDICINE. She said, "If you don’t stop crossing your eyes, they’re going to freeze that way."

She taught me how to BECOME AN ADULT by informing me, "If you don’t eat your vegetables, you’ll never grow up.”

She also knew GENETICS, for she declared, "You are just like your father!"

She made me wonder about my ROOTS when she asked, "Were you born in a barn? Close the door!"

Mother also taught me about ANTICIPATION when she promised, "Just wait until your father gets home."

And Mom’s favorite thing to teach me was JUSTICE. She would say, "One day you will have kids. Then you’ll see what it’s like!"

Most women can have a child, but a woman doesn’t have to give birth to be a good mother. She can be a step-mother, an aunt, a grandmother, an adoptive mother, or just a neighbor who loves and cares for a child.

I have high respect for mothers who stay married to their husbands, dedicate their lives to raising their children, and maintain a healthy home environment. But there are fewer women committed to these things today than when I was a child. Those who have lived through this societal shift in our country can see its effects.

One of the most devastating and destructive movements to our homes is the Feminist Movement. What exactly is feminism? If you look in the dictionary, it will tell you feminism is a movement seeking the same rights for women as for men. We might say, “What could possibly be wrong with that?” If it were that simple, we could agree with it.

In practical truth, feminism is really a movement that promotes dominance and control by women—something totally outside the will of God. Consequently, feminism is sadly destroying our families and social structure, creating dysfunctional children, and gender confusion.

As a result, the Word of God is being dishonored, and our Savior is being dishonored. Church leaders, theologians, professors of theology, as well as lay people in the church, who are supposed to hold to the truth of the Scriptures, have bought the feminist lies. Radical feminism has brainwashed our culture to the degree that even the Church has fallen victim to it by ordaining women as elders and preachers.

1 Timothy 2:11-12 Let a woman learn quietly with all submissiveness. I do not permit a woman to teach or to exercise authority over a man; rather, she is to remain quiet.

If you women love Christ, if you seek to honor God, if you want to lift up and exalt the Word, you will be eager to obey God’s Word. If you want to do what society says, if you want to fulfill your own fleshly desire and demand your rights, you will fall right into the Feminist Movement and disobey what God says.

Jesus said it simply and concisely in John 14:15 “If you love me, you will keep my commandments.”

Young women need instruction, just like young men and older women and older men do. The Word tells us what each group needs to be taught.

Titus 2:1-5 But as for you, teach what accords with sound doctrine. Older men are to be sober-minded, dignified, self-controlled, sound in faith, in love, and in steadfastness. Older women likewise are to be reverent in behavior, not slanderers or slaves to much wine. They are to teach what is good, and so train the young women to love their husbands and children, to be self-controlled, pure, working at home, kind, and submissive to their own husbands, that the word of God may not be reviled.

All of us are to show the character of Jesus Christ, which is the fruit of the Holy Spirit.

In addition to that, men are to teach sound doctrine. They are to teach the men to be sober-minded (serious), dignified, and self-controlled. In other words, men are to be taught to quit acting like irresponsible boys and how to become mature Christians, sound in faith, love, and steadfastness.

Likewise, the older women are to be taught to be reverent in behavior, not slanderers, or slaves to much wine. In other words, the older women are to be taught to quit acting like the devil. The devil is one who slanders Christians. When women - or anyone, for that matter - slander and gossip, they are doing the devils’ work! It is a trait of the sinful nature that people would rather hear and repeat a malicious story than one to somebody’s credit.

Older women are not to be addicted “to much wine”. This was a common failing of women in Roman and Greek culture. Today, we could add to this failing, not to be addicted to much drugs, internet use, TV, food, laziness, and other habits.

If the older women exhibit reverent behavior, that is the fruit of the Holy Spirit, then God can use their wisdom and experience to be teachers of good things to the younger women. The older women are to model what they teach and mentor the younger women.

Again, verses 4 and 5 read, “and so train the young women to love their husbands and children, to be self-controlled, pure, working at home, kind, and submissive to their own husbands, that the word of God may not be reviled."

God has a magnificent and wonderful design for women. It is a design which will fulfill their created purpose, maximize their uniqueness, make them a blessing to the world, and bring fulfillment to their own lives and glory to the name of God. Women in the Church can have a powerful witness in the community so that God is glorified and His Word is not reviled or detested, which is what feminism does to the Word of God.

Older women are to be a model of how to love their husband and children. From older women, the young women can learn to be discreet, chaste, homemakers, good, loving, and submissive to their own husbands.

According to this Scripture, a man is not to make it his ministry to teach the young women directly. Instead, he is to equip the older women to teach the young women. This doesn’t mean that the young women are barred from listening to him preach. It simply means that it is wrong - and dangerous - for a man to make the young women a focus of his ministry. If there is a women’s Bible Study group, a man shouldn’t teach it. The older women should teach it and the men are to equip them to do it by teaching sound doctrine.

Instructions for the young women begin with home issues. God has given them a strategic position of influence and assistance to their husbands and their children. Therefore, they must be taught how to let love dominate and control their influence and assistance. After all, the one who rocks the cradle determines the future of the Church and our country. That is why it is an important role for the young woman to be at home with the children, exhibiting self-control, kindness, purity, and submissiveness to God and to her husband. She should be a model, to her children and to the community, of the Church’s relationship to Christ. The Church is the Bride of Christ. Christ is the Church’s head and the Church is subject to Him.

Ephesians 5:22-24 Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. For the husband is head of the wife, as also Christ is head of the church; and He is the Savior of the body. Therefore, just as the church is subject to Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in everything.

Colossians 3:18 Wives, submit to your own husbands, as is fitting in the Lord.

A wife’s submission to her husband has a powerful influence in the home, more than any amount of arguing or nagging. Submission influences the children by teaching them not to rebel and to respect their father, plus it has power to change the heart of a husband.

1 Peter 3:1-2 Wives, in the same way be submissive to your husbands so that, even if any of them do not believe the Word, they may be won over without words by the behavior of their wives, when they see the purity and reverence of your lives.

Feminists hate these Scriptures, and others, that tell women their role in the home and in the Church. The kindest thing they will say, “Well, that was for back then.” That is a lie from the devil that is used today to discredit the whole Bible. Therefore, it is vitally important for the older Christian women to teach the younger women the Word of God instead of feminist philosophy.

The Scripture says that love for husbands and children must be taught. We would think that young women would need no teaching in this area. Certainly, aspects of this love are innate. But with the demonic influence of feminism - which has been around since the Garden of Eden when Eve took leadership over her husband and convinced him to eat the fruit from the Tree of Knowledge of Good and Evil - young women are taught to fulfill their desires instead of submitting to their husband and loving their children.

This self-sacrificing love, which is like the love of Jesus, must be taught and demonstrated. No one can do this better than an older Christian woman, who has experienced and overcome the trials of being a wife and mother.

The home, not the office or factory, is where a woman provides the expressions of love for her husband and her children. The home is where she leads and guides and teaches and raises the next godly generation. The home is where she is protected and secured from other men and potentially wicked relationships and abuses. The home is where she lodges strangers, washes saints’ feet, shows hospitality, and devotes herself to every good work. That’s her domain. And it is a wise and loving husband who highly respects her work in the home, praises her, honors her, and rewards her.

For example, Charles Spurgeon made this tribute to his wife. "She delights in her husband, in his person, his character, his affection. To her, he is not only the chief and foremost of mankind, but in her eyes, he is all in all. Her heart’s love belongs to him and to him only. He is her little world, her paradise, her choice treasure. She is glad to sink her individuality in him. She seeks no renown for herself. His honor is reflected upon her, and she rejoices in it. She will defend his name with her dying breath. Safe enough is he where she can speak for him. His smiling gratitude is all the reward she seeks, even in her dress, she thinks of him and considers nothing beautiful which is distasteful to him. He has many objects in life, some of which she does not quite understand. But she believes them all and anything she can do to promote them she delights to perform. Such a wife, as a true spouse, realizes the model marriage relation and sets forth what our oneness with the Lord ought to be."

Spurgeon highly praised his wife for exemplifying the relationship of the Church to Christ? Read it again as a tribute to the Church whose husband is Jesus Christ.

Can you, or your husband, honestly say those things about you?

God planned that men would lead their families, and women would be equal helpers, supporting and perfectly completing the men. Yet, Satan’s plan is for women to be independent of men and dominating men. Satan tells us through feminism, “You’ve come a long way baby! Throw down the dishrag, burn the bra, leave your husband, go out in the world, because you deserve something for yourself. ”

One reason our society is struggling is we don’t have enough older godly women teaching the truth. They have accepted the feminist lie. A bigger reason our society is struggling, is we don’t have enough older men with the courage to stand up and speak the truth! Most men have been beaten down by feminism in society and in their own home. Now they cower to the power of feminism because they are punished severely if they express the truth in word or action.

As a result, young men are raised with a weak father or no father. They are dominated by their mother. If this doesn’t drive boys into homosexuality, they still struggle because they have not learned to be a man. Instead of providing for their own family, the young men seek a woman who will provide for them without the commitment of marriage, which is easy to find under feminism. This has led to 50% of our children being born to unwed mothers. But the feminist claim this is good because men are not necessary to the family. The government will take care of the children while mother pursues her goals.

By abandoning the Word of God, it only took one generation for feminism to change society. It may take longer to change society back to the Word of God, but it is our responsibility, both men and women, to teach and obey the Word of God. Then our homes will glorify God, our children will be blessed, our marriages will last and be joyful, and the Word of God and Jesus Christ will be glorified. We will be lights in this dark world.

However, not a whole lot is going to happen for the good in this world until we can team up with God and other people to make life what it ought to be, Church what it ought to be, society what it should be, and homes what they should be.

Mothers, we are looking to you to set the course for our young women to follow. Teach them what it means to love their families and to love God. Speak out against false ideas of feminism and what society says it means to be a woman.

Young women, do you want to be a godly wife and mother? If not, then stay single and don’t have children. If you do want to be a godly wife and mother, then learn from the example of an older godly mother who has already fought the battles and has been given insight from God. Don’t give in to the snare of feminism. The influence of a godly mother has a profound effect on the future.

2 Timothy 1:5 I have been reminded of your sincere faith, which first lived in your grandmother Lois and in your mother Eunice and, I am persuaded, now lives in you also.

Timothy traveled with Paul and Silas, preached in Corinth, Philippi, Thessalonica, and was jailed for his faith. Paul wrote this to Timothy to encourage him in his faith in Jesus Christ, which he first learned from his mother and grandmother.

Likewise, our faith or lack of faith is passed on to our children. When we fail to have godly mothers, we will fail to have godly children. If Satan can get our women to fail, he can get the whole world to reject Jesus Christ. If we will reclaim the role of godly women in our homes, we will see a profound impact in the Church and upon our society.

Women, there is a lot hanging on how well you fulfill God’s role for you. None of us would be here without a woman. None of us would survive without a mother. We need you to demonstrate to all of us how to submit to Christ and glorify God. The Church and all of society is depending on you.